For many is it hard to say “be uplifted” for those in transition when experiencing the loss of a loved one. The reason I chose the words “loved ones” is that generally speaking the death or transition of others (those we are not close to) does not shake us as much.
Death of another is never initially easy as the shock takes hold, disbelief sets in, coupled with self-reflection (I may be mortal?). Then the Why, What, Where and telling everyone, then on to arrangements, cultural responsibilities, giving support to others, asking for support and the list goes on. Then when the take stock of the shock settles; the Five Stages of Grief move in. Denial, anger, depression, bargaining and acceptance. These were introduced by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. In the end your beliefs shape your world and how you deal with what is happening to you and those you love.
Ramona’s tip: Everyday person’s book on Life after Death “We Don’t Die” a skeptic’s discovery of Life after Death by Sandra Champlain. I liked this book very much and interviewed her on my show Ramaoninterviews. Well researched and written from the heart through personal experiences. Another book on “Death” an inside story by Sadhguru. Given with extreme kindness and candor Sadhguru frames death from within the context of his experiences and beliefs.
I believe there is also a place, process and a purpose to the journey of departing. Something many of us know little to nothing about. (Those is the hospice field know/experience some) I believe in the coming decades we will come to study this in both modern science and energy terms. We will learn to aid those who cross this metaphysical bridge and in doing so we will reach a deeper understanding of life in general. This will lead to changes in our healthcare system/care facility systems as well as give more support to in-home care for those traveling this road.
My Experience: I am not making light of a loss. As I am coming face to face (my mom) with the general missed understandings of the process that goes with transition. This has prompted me to really look a quality of life issues but if and when the person is at end of life – things change in ways that are unexpected. As a intuitive person there are many levels I can see and sense things on which helps me gain solace and widen my understanding of my mom’s experiences and for that I am grateful. As I watch her world become physically smaller I can see stages developing both physically and mentally. I am assuming most people go through these but there is also a kind of other worldlessness that is personal to each person. As a bystander specifically more so during this covid pandemic (no visits to the nursing home) tuning in is not the answer to all those hard questions. What I can do is pray with intention, and help her release what she needs to while reassuring her that we are all, ok. No permission is needed and this journey which is making her physical world smaller is still beautiful and purposeful.
Insights and suffering are measured as we move through this journey together. To laugh together, to listen, to provide solace, to give her Reiki healing to help facility the peacefulness she tells me she needs. For the primary provider and the person in transition it is in some way an alone journey despite the connection of caring for someone.
We are the breath of physical life (the wonder of nature) melded within an eternal soul contained in a body. There are times in the stillness that I miss her as she was but I understand more and more about who she was now . I am forever grateful to share this journey with all its, sorrows, joys, exhaustion, moments of clarity and sweet smiles. The more we as a society choose to understand about transition the better the experience will be for everyone.
The bigger picture: Death is after all an experience of loss and a mirror of our mortality- which walks with us (even if we ignore it) all the way through our lives. Difference cultures act towards, move with and through the acceptance of loss in different ways. It is in an acceptance that we can come to full circle in the reconciling all of the memories, activities, sensory play as well as the physical and emotional & energetic bonding that was once so close and so real. Some people do this during the transition process and other after and still some never totally accept. May we all know peace and acceptance for ourselves and for our beloved when the time comes and for all of the beloved by God everywhere.
ERP
Please be aware that I am writing in very general terms about transition. This blog is my view totally and if you feel it does not work with you. No worries. Loss is personal and all is respected even if different.